Sleep deprivation and out-of-control hormones are a perfect storm for some wild feelings, which is perfectly normal. However, it is important to know when these feelings begin to grow into more serious conditions like postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety.
While you are trying to avoid this storm, or you’re trying to cope with it, it is important to be aware that postpartum depression may be hard but it is a phase that will surely get over. It is also essential to know that you must continue to love yourself during this journey of early motherhood because you will never be able to fill from an empty vase. A few tips can help a new mom pass through this in a much easier way.
MAKE ROOM FOR EMOTIONS
Postpartum ‘baby blues’ affects approximately 80% of women. The baby blues typically last up to two weeks and might include mood swings, feeling overwhelmed, anxiety, bouts of crying, or difficulty sleeping. It is normal and healthy to let those emotions spill. However, if these feelings persist or worsen beyond the two-week mark, don’t delay talking to your healthcare provider.
TAKE PRESSURE OFF YOURSELF
Give yourself space to feel whatever emotions you have, including grief or sadness. We go into birth with a lot of expectations, including some we don’t even realize we have. Having surgery and recovery from surgery require healing physically, but also emotionally and psychologically.
DON’T STACK YOURSELF UP AGAINST YOUR FRIENDS
Everyone’s story – pregnancy, labor, delivery, postpartum – is different, so try to avoid comparing yourself to others. Each mother has her own story which includes unique challenges and accomplishments. On one hand, it’s a great idea to take a few lessons from other moms but it is essential to refrain from keeping someone as your benchmark. And for everyone else, be kind, be supportive, and lift one another.
STAY IN TOUCH WITH WHO YOU WERE PRE-BABY
Build time to connect with activities or things that are important to you. Share important things with your infant, and tell your infant about activities you enjoy. Talking to your child about these things, and showing your child items that mean something to you, will help your child’s development and will remind you of things that are
Ask friends and family to help with basic needs for your family. Set up a list of things you need help with. This will help during the period of deep blues, which is not uncommon. Seek help, when needed.